Mostly people Respect our Attribute, Not ourselves

When we dress glamorously, people respect us. 

When we dress untidily, people disrespect us.

Evidently, people respect the clothes we wear, NOT ourselves.

Similarly, when we have a high position in the hierarchy, people respect and look up to us, even trying hard to get close to us. 

However, when we don't have any position, people disrespect and create distance with us.

Evidently, people respect our position, Not us.

That what humans are in general. 

Many people understand the meaning of Sincerity but don't have it. 

Many people are blinded by wealth and power that they have that make them forget the essence of being a human.

[Pd saat kita berpakaian bagus & mahal, org2 menghormati kita,

Pd saat kita berpakaian compang camping, org2 Tidak menghormati kita,
Ternyata, org menghormati pakaian yg melekat kita, bukan diri kita.

Pd saat kita memiliki kedudukan tinggi, org2 berebut2 dekat dg kita & menghormati kita,
Pd saat kita Tidak memiliki kedudukan apa2, org2 menjauh & Tidak menghormati kita,
Ternyata org  menghormati kedudukan kita, bukan diri kita.

Itulah manusia pd umumnya.
Byk manusia tau arti kata ketulusan, tp tidak memiliki Ketulusan.

Byk manusia disilaukan kekayaan yg melekat & kedudukan/power yg disandang, shg melupakan esensi keberadaan manusia.

Aborigin Vs Mauri

Suku asli Australia (Aussie) adalah suku Aborigin.
Suku Aborigin tidak boleh sekolah oleh pemerintah Aussie.
Suku Aborigin dibebaskan minum2an keras oleh Pemerintah Aussie.
Suku Aborigin mendptkan uang santunan dr Pemerintah.
Suku Aborigin mudah 'dibeli'.
Kelihatannya suku Aborigin di-'manja'-kan oleh Pemerintah Aussie. Pdhl kenyataannya suku Aborigin dibuat Bodoh dan diciptakan Habit/kebiasaan bermalas2an.
80% penjara berisikan org2 Aborigin.

Berbeda dg suku Mauri (suku asli New Zealand). 
Suku Mauri sangat SETIA KAWAN, Tidak bisa 'dibeli'/disuap, memiliki VALUE yg tinggi.
Suku Mauri bekerja keras dan Tidak mau diberi fasilitas2 oleh pemerintah (krn mmg tidak bs 'dibeli').
Shg suku Mauri sgt dihormati sampe dg hari ini.

Sering dlm hidup terjadi dg kita.
Apa yg tampaknya 'enak', 'full fasilitas' dan 'nyaman' membuat kita terbuai dan langsung beranggapan betapa baiknya org tsb thd kita.
Kita lupa dg habit/kebiasaan buruk yg diciptakan dalam hidup kita. Konsekuensi dr habit/kebiasaan tsb, kita sendr yg tanggung. 
Apapun yg diberikan/ditawarkan ke kita, lbh baik kita pikirkan Konsekuensi BURUK apa yg harus kita tanggung apabila hal tsb sdh menjadi habit/kebiasaan kita. Kalo konsekuensinya Buruk thd kita, lbh baik kita tolak kenyamanan sesaat tsb.

Salam Mauri

Life in balancing

Lesson from accident:
LIFE in BALANCING

We need all our part of body, eventhough only our tiny finger.
That's y we hv to make sure that our part of body is healthy.
That's what I've called 'BALANCING'. Balancing of our body to achieve Healthiness and good functionional.

From that thought, I was enlightment that BALANCING in LIFE is Very bery important.

Balancing in all aspect, which is:
*Family-work-gym-personal
*Mind-heart
*Real life-Religion(meditation/praying)
*Delicious food-healthy food

If one of those is not in balance ( or even worse: broken), then it will effect the rest..

Filsafat Bolak Balik versi Veron

Filsafat Bolak Balik :
Masih muda, korbankan kesehatan cari harta. Sudah tua, korbankan harta cari kesehatan.

Karena harta, orang asing menjadi seperti saudara. Karena harta, saudara menjadi seperti orang asing.

Orang kaya mampu beli ranjang enak, tapi gak bisa tidur enak (stress...euiii). Orang miskin gak mampu beli ranjang enak, tapi bisa tidur enak (capek jadi kuli...)

Orang kaya punya duit buat foya-foya, tapi gak punya waktu. Orang miskin punya waktu buat foya-foya, tapi gak punya duit.

Masih muda, pengen jadi kaya biar nikmatin kekayaan, Udah kaya, gak punya waktu buat nikmatin kekayaan. Sekali punya waktu buat nikmatin kekayaan, udah keburu tua gak ada tenaga...

My personal comment:
Filsafat yg salah yg beredar di masy shg masy qt tambah miskin, malas & apatis~Veron


FILSAFAT VERON's VERSION:
Mumpung muda, manfaatkan wkt dg baik utk cari harta & olah raga. Biar wkt tua, punya harta utk dinikmati.

Dengan harta, orang asing bs menjadi seperti saudara. Dg harta, bisa bantu saudara & membahagiakan ortu.

Orang kaya bs tidur enak dg ranjang yg nyaman dan mahal. Orang miskin gak mampu beli ranjang enak, ga bisa tidur enak krn pusing bsk makan apa..

Orang kaya punya duit buat foya-foya KAPANPUN. Orang miskin punya waktu buat foya-foya, tapi gak punya duit (kasihan)

Wkt muda, pengen jadi kaya biar nikmatin kekayaan; stlh kaya, bs nikmatin kekayaan sesukanya kpnpun dimanapun. Wkt muda, mindset salah ttg uang & kaya shg ga kerja sungguh2, (krn penganut aliran 'Filsafat bolak balik' yg beredar), buang wkt utk menyalahkan & mengeluh; stlh tua, sakit ga ada biaya baru menyadari pentingnya uang & kaya, tp terlambat, dan Lagi2 menyalahkan keadaan!
Cheers, Veron

Sahabat sejati

Seorg teman yg sll ingin meminta, yg berbicara tp tdk berbuat, yg hanya pandai menjilat, yg menyertai kita dlm kesalahan. Inilah musuh yg menyamar sbg teman. Ke4 jenis teman ini adlh lawan. Seorg yg bijaksana akan menghindari mrk, mrk merup jalan yg berbahaya. Seorg teman yg sll mengulurkan tangan, seorg teman dlm susah maupun senang, yg memberikan nasehat yg bijaksana, yg penuh simpatik. Mrk merup 4 jenis SAHABAT SEJATI!

Sehrsnya seseorg berteman dg org bijaksana, yg dpt menunjukkan kesalahan2nya, yg dpt memberikan nasehat& peringatan,bagaikan seseorg yg dpt menunjukkan tempat tersimpannya harta karun! Dg org spt itulah, sehrsnya seseorg bergaul! Pergaulan yg dmk itu akan membawa kebaikan, bukan kemerosotan! ~Dhammapada Vl, 76

Eastern Vs Western abt growing up their kids

Don't u think western culture on growing up their kids are more sensable than Chinese culture?

C the chinese people, who do the parents work for?? For the kids future they said.. And when the kids have grown up, the kids have no struggle and fighting spirit, coz their parents have already given all they need in financial for their 'future'
Then, C what happen to the parents?? They live depend on their kids' charity & responsibility in financial. And if their growing up kids don't have a charity sense and not responsibilty enough, what happen to the parents? The parents live in broken heart and frustation. After the whole life work for the kid's future, and here it is, take what has left for the parents. If nothing's left, well.. Live as it is u could..

Sometime what the western has taken for their life, is not wrong. We have judged as if they live too individually & egoist. Actually, they don't.

Like Kahlil Gibran's prophet; Kahlil Gibran said that we do not own our kids. So, when the time kids can stand on their own feet-when kids have grown up on their working age, let the Nature Law takes control. Let them fight for their own life. The parents' obligate have finished.

So, the parents work for growing up their kids till time they can work on their own, then the parents can work for THEMSELVES preparing their pension money. So the parents do not need depend on their kids' charity. When the parents have passed away and still got money left, the kids may have it as inherited.

But If we follow our society culture about this, then we will never pension! We are pension when time for us to be sick and lay on the bed. Then when will the parents enjoy their life ???? Only when the parents were kid?????

Even, wedding party shd be on the bride and the broom's cost, not the parents cost. The parents have no obligate to hold a wedding party for their kids at our society standard.
The person who plan for their wedding party shd be on their work age and has a job. What a very glamorious & expensive wedding party for, if the new wed couple's financial life after marriage is so-so?

Start from ourselves

It's a great HAPPINESS can make others happy...
If we arenot happy, how can we make our fam, frenz, ppl ard us & others to be happy?

It's a great FEELING can help others...
If we don't have money, how can we help others?

It's a great BLESSED having frenz who always honest to us.....
If we don't honest to ourselves, how can we ask others to be honest?

It's a great HONOR to be respected by others.....
If we arenot respect ourselves how can we ask others to respect us?

It's a great LIFE to be loved....
If u want to be loved, Love!

Frenz.....

We cannot predict what happen in hours......
We cannot predict our friends' character & heart....

Frenz who've ever said that they were ur frenz, suddenly they betray u......
Frenz who've ever promised & said they meant every words they said, suddenly they didnot keep it.....
Frenz who've ever said that they were a fren indeed, suddenly they left u just like that without saying goodbye...
Frenz who've claimed that they were gentlemen, after got a little problem--we found them as a coward...

Human being got many species.....
What ever species ur frenz are, never be a part of it...
Every emotion got its consequences,
Every thought got its consequences,
Every decision got its consequences,
Every action got its consequences...

Love All Serve All

To Love is to give
To Love is to service
To Love is to sacrifice

"Love All Serve All"
It sounds very simple, but difficult to applied
How wonderful this earth if each of us loves all & serves all..

Aksi-Konsekuensi

Sering kita tidak menyadari kalau semua perkara yang ada karena adanya aksi yang kemudian disusul reaksi. Yang sering terjadi adalah menyalahkan reaksi/ kondisi yang terjadi kemudian. Memang dengan demikian lebih mudah untuk mencari kambing hitam atau lari dari tanggung jawab. Hal demikian menunjukkan suatu karakter ketidak-gentleman-an dan ketidakberanian menghadapi & mengambil konsekuensi. Sedangkan yang namanya konsekuensi selalu 1 paket dengan segala aksi, dengan segala keputusan, dengan segala tindakan. Banyak yang sudah tahu dengan keberadaan konsekuensi. Meskipun demikian, masih banyak juga yang tetap lari dari konsekuensi dengan segala upaya... What a pity... Apabila mau menyadari lebih dalam lagi, maka meskipun melarikan diri dari konsekuensi dengan menghalalkan segala carapun, tetap akan diikuti oleh konsekuensi-konsekuensi lainnya yang juga merupakan 1 paket dari pelarian diri tersebut. Malah konsekuensi-konsekuensi berikutnya tersebut lebih besar lagi dibanding konsekuensi yang pertama. Sayangnya, masih banyak yang lebih memilih melarikan diri.... Sadarkah mereka akan konsekuensi susulan yang lebih besar & berat tersebut? Sampai kapan mereka akan terus berlari dari tumpukan bola salju konsekuensi yang tambah lama tambah membesar?

Right Thing To Do

What matters is that you understand that others suffer,...some...
worse than u could ever do. The nature of compassion isn't coming to terms with ur own suffering and applying it to others. It's knowing that other folks around u suffer, and no matter what happens to u, no matter how lucky or unlucky u are, they keep suffering. And if u can do something about that, u do it, and u do it without whining or waving ur own... cross for the world to see. You do it because IT'S THE RIGHT THING TO DO.
(by Irish author John Connolly)

Manipulasi Realitas

Manipulasi realitas sering terjadi tanpa kita sadari, juga paling sering & paling populer dipakai beberapa oknum untuk kepentingan pribadi/ organisasi. Bagaimana memanipulasi realitas?
Sebelumnya perlu kita ketahui bahwa setiap detail keadaan yang kita alami terdiri atas:
1. Diri kita sendiri
2. Orang lain/ pihak lain
3. Lingkungan/ kondisi
4. Waktu
Oleh sebab itu, bila satu elemen saja berubah, dirubah atau dihilangkan, maka gambaran keseluruhan sudah pasti ikut berubah. Jadi bila diri kita sendiri, pihak lain, & waktunya sama, tapi kondisinya telah berubah, dan kejadian tersebut diberitakan dengan memakai kondisi yang telah dirubah, maka realitas yang diberitakan sudah pasti berbeda & memiliki arti yang sangat berbeda pula. Inilah yang saya sebut sebagai Manipulasi Realitas..

Love is like Infinity

LOVE is like infinity:

You can't have more or less infinity, and you can't compare two things to see if they're "equally infinite."

Infinity just is, and that's the way I think LOVE is, too...

How Important You Can Be

If you could only sense how important you are to the lives of those you meet; how important you can be to the people you may never even dream of. There is something of yourself that you leave at every meeting with another person.

(Jika saja kamu dapat merasakan betapa pentingnya kamu bagi orang2 yang kamu temui, betapa kamu dapat menjadi penting bagi orang yang mungkin tidak pernah kamu mimpikan. Ada sesuatu pada dirimu yang kamu tinggalkan pada setiap pertemuan dengan orang lain)

We Can't Wipe a Moment -How Simple & Little Those Moments Are-

I've just back from Japan-Hawaii. An incentive trip that i got from my company (Sequislife). There were some moments we went shopping. During shopping time, i saw some hand-bags, there's a bag that suitable for my Mom..... i almost buy for my Mom..... 3 seconds later i remembered that my Mom has gone. When i bought lipsticks, i saw the typical colour that my Mom like, i almost buy for her... then i realized she has gone.. Yet still deep inside me i wanted to buy it for my Mom, coz i know it's her favorite typical colour.. I'm very sad that i can't buy things again for her... Every time i go overseas, i used to buy things for her, now i cannot do it again... 1 habit that i cannot do again now.. My habit every time i go abroad is buying somethings for my family, my friends, & my team to show that i still remember them whenever i go, to give my little attention to them, & to share my joyous trip with them.. It seems a very common & a very simple habit that everyone do everytime go overseas, but, this very common & very simple habit can make us sad & feel a lost when we realize that we never can do it again for someone we love most.... Enjoy every moment --good & bad moments, little & big moments, common & uncommon moments, simple & important moments-- coz we never know when we cannot have those moments again..

My Fat Dream

MY FAT DREAM

Cannot touch it,
As touching the sky.
Cannot feel it,
Like a fake love story.
Just dream it.

They spread wings,
Fly easily.
Stretch your arms,
It is not easy.

As a giant mountain,
Try to hug it.
Even it does not run,
How to hug it?

Dream,
An imagination,
Just imagine.
Dream,
Hard to follow,
Just bring a sorrow.

Whatever,
Wherever,
Dream is simply just a dream.

(Poem by Kohar Santoso--Secondary 3/ Anglo Chinese School-S'pore))

Kenikmatan Hidup Dalam Proses Kehidupan

Seorang bhiksu muda diminta gurunya untuk membeli minyak goreng di pasar yang terletak di kaki bukit,sebelum berangkat seorang juru masak di Vihara mengingatkannya, "Kita harus berhemat,keadaan keuangan kita menipis. Berhati hatilah,jangan sampai tumpah." Setelah membeli minyak tersebut di pasar,bhiksu muda itupun pulang. Dia berjalan dengan sangat berhati hati supaya minyak tersebut tidak tumpah dari cawannya. Setibanya di pintu,karena konsentrasinya bhiksu tersebut tidak memperhatikan adanya lubang di depan jalan sehingga terjatuh. Walaupun cawannya tidak pecah tetapi sepertiga dari minyak tersebut sudah tumpah ke jalan. Berpikir akan diketahui oleh juru masak dan ia pasti kena marah,Bhiksu muda itupun menangis sehingga dihampiri oleh gurunya. Gurunya berkata, "Sekarang pergilah kembali membeli minyak,tapi kali ini perhatikanlah jalan dan berjalanlah dengan santai dalam perjalanan kembali kesini dan setelah itu melaporlah ke saya." Bhiksu muda itu menuruti perintah gurunya dan dia turun sekali lagi ke kaki bukit untuk membeli minyak goreng. Di sepanjang perjalanan pulang bhiksu muda itu melihat pemandangan indah di sekelilingnya dan ia begitu menikmatinya. Tanpa disadari,dia sudah sampai di Vihara dengan selamat tanpa setetespun minyak tertuang dari cawan.

Pesan yang dapat kita ambil tersebut adalah: Seseorang yang pandai mencari kenikmatan hidup dalam proses memperjuangkan hidup mereka sajalah yang akan dapat merasakan hidup ini PENUH WARNA, BERARTI dan LUAR BIASA. Walaupun penuh dengan ujian dan tantangan tetapi jika mereka MENYIKAPINYA dengan positif maka merekalah yang benar benar menikmati PROSES hidup itu.

Challenges

Whatever & whoever ur challenges are, never afraid nor give up. We are absolutely BIGGER than those challenges. As long as we ADMIT our mistakes, as long as we want to LEARN, as long as we want to PAY, as long as we do ONLY our BEST, and as long as we still HEALTHY & HAVE DAYS, therefore we still have CHANCES to be a WINNER. What i've seen people around me, mostly they donot realize the power within them. Though they are overseas graduated, they are surrender and give up towards --what i call-- CHALLENGES.

(Apapun & siapapun tantanganmu, jangan pernah takut atau menyerah. Kita pasti lebih besar dari pada tantangan2 tsb. Selama kita mengakui kesalahan2 kita, selama kita mau belajar, selama kita mau membayar, selama kita melakukan hanya yang terbaik, selama kita masih sehat & mempunyai hari, maka kita masih mempunyai kesempatan2 utk menjadi pemenang. Saya melihat orang2 disekeliling saya, kebanyakan mereka tidak menyadari kekuatan didalam diri mereka sendiri. Meskipun mereka lulusan luar negeri, mereka menyerah dan meninggalkan --apa yg saya sebut sebagai-- TANTANGAN)

Announcement & Special Thanks

Coz of some friends have requested some written in bahasa Indonesia, i'll do my best to write in bahasa, and if some written in English --which is more easier & faster for me-- i'll do my best to translate it as well.. My deeply thanks to my beloved sincere friends who always support & give attention to me.



(Karena ada beberapa teman yg request penulisan dalam bahasa Indonesia, saya akan lakukan yg terbaik utk menulis dlm bahasa Indonesia, dan jika ada bbrp penulisan dalam bhs Inggris --dimana lebih mudah & cepat bagi saya-- saya akan lakukan yg terbaik utk menterjemahkannya. Terima kasih sedalam2nya kpd teman2 yg saya cintai yg selalu mendukung & memberi perhatian kpd saya)

Understanding Love

Understanding love is one of the hardest things in the world.
Deep within us --no matter who we are-- there lives a feeling of wanting to be lovable, of wanting to be the kind of person that others like to be with. And the greatest thing we can do is to let people know that they are loved & capable of loving.
Love isn't a state of perfect caring. It is an active noun like struggle. To love someone is to strive to accept that person exactly the way he or she is, right here and now.